One morning in the not too distant past…
Wade, while changing Emma’s diaper, “ARRRGHHH!!! NO!!”
Knowing I have absolutely no desire to ACTUALLY know why he’s upset I call out from the safety of our bedroom, “What happened?” Praying that he doesn’t say he needs me.
Wade, “Emma just stuck her hand in her poopy diaper and then put her hand in her mouth.”
I gag, and stay right where I am.
Wade, “Wait… no… ok, she didn’t stick her hand in her mouth.”
Emma suddenly lets out an ear piercing scream of pure rage.
Wade, “Emma don’t stick your hand there, no Emma that’s poop!”
And thus our day began with a bang!
To say NO or not to say NO:
That is the question.
Isn’t it amazing how one tiny little word, “No” can elicit such strong, passionate responses? Equally amazing is how Emma can be so completely convinced that what she wants AND needs is to stick her hand in her poopy diaper and then taste test it. So compelled is she by her conviction, that her entire body shakes with rage, huge tears course down her chunky cheeks as she stares at Wade, the evil father who dare say no to the princess. What does he know anyway!? He’s old, has no clue what she needs, what will make her happy. Right?
Does it change so very much as they age? There are still times, when what they want, what they are reaching for, begging for is nothing more than a poopy diaper. As a parent, we can see the nastiness that they are reaching for. We can see that it will not prove beneficial for their lives. And as a parent it’s our responsibility to say no, to endure the rage and the tears. Isn’t it? Maybe I am looking at this too black and white. Maybe you say, it will be different when Emma is a teen. When it isn’t literally a poopy diaper that she’s trying to immerse her hand in. Granted, I am still living in the parenting world of toddlers – So maybe I am naive…
The Mom Card
One of my all time favourite shows is Gilmore Girls. There was a time that I could quote every word from every episode (who are we kidding I still probably could if put to the test!). I love how Lorelei and Rory communicate, the speed at which they put forth sentences is simply astounding! What I do not agree with, however, and what seems to have become the standard norm for parenting strategies is how they seemed to have this democracy led household. There is one episode is Season 1 – where Rory is going to be switching to a private school, and she is angry about it and Lorelei says, (and I quote), Continue reading Eating Poop: All in the name of tolerance