My precious baby boy is now 13 months old and has begun to throw fits….. can it really be? What happened to the terrible two’s? I am certain that I heard I had a good two years of perfect children before I would ever have to concern myself with discipline measures? Is this a forewarning of what is to come? Are there any terrifying theories out there that say if a child begins having fits at 13 months that the parents can kiss goodbye the ‘perfect obedient child‘ dream?
Here’s how it happened.
Yesterday was Sunday, to begin with it is a busy busy morning in which everyone rushes around to get ready to leave for church on time. Jude and I have sortave nailed down a routine in which he still feels like he gets a chance to play while Mommy gets ready.
- I get up
- Jude has his bottle and watches his Baby Praise video
- I shower
- Once I’ve cleaned up I put Jude in the bathtub (his favourite time of the day) and he plays while I try to tame my hair and apply makeup!
- Once I’m completely ready Jude gets out of the tub and its his turn to be creamed and clothed.
Here’s where the fun began. Fit #1
Apparently a 30 min tub time was simply not enough. Nor was now tepid water temperatures enough to convince him he needed to get out of the tub. I whisked him out anyway, despite his loud protests. and
plopped him on his change table laid him gently on his change table. That blessed child began to swing his left arm like a machete in attempts to catch his Mommy in its wake…. and shriek at the top of his lungs. Thus began a crazy process of trying to keep his body still and clothe him while dodging that arm! It was a relief to finally take his clothed body downstairs. I set him on the floor to play with his toys while I gulped down some breakfast and packed up his bag.
Now we had officially 15 min to get to church on time, so I went to get Jude, to put on his coat and shoes so we could head out. I picked him from the middle of his toy chaos and sat him on my lap.
Jude began to reef his body and throw his very hard head backwards hitting me in the chest. “OW! Jude. No. Mommy said No. We need to go and you need to get ready. Let Mommy put on your coat and shoes.” Jude SCREAMS and continues to try and catapult his body off my lap and throws his head back as hard as he can. So ensues the next 5 min. I literally had his little body pinned back and one leg pinned in between mine.Then I dodged his head as much as I could. At one point I flicked his hand… nothing just more screams and body convulsions….. SERIOUSLY?????
By the time he was dressed and in his car seat (red faced and tear streaked) I was soaked in sweat. I packed the rest of the car up, locked the door and sat in the drivers seat. I leaned my head back and just breathed.
HOW can this be? Does it get worse? I KNOW that it does… but oh dear, oh my…. this is exhausting. After he went to bed that night I went and watched his birth video and a bunch of little clips from those first few days… could those days really be done and now replaced with this child who will loudly express his anger towards me!!!!!
I think maybe possible one child will suffice for this family! Unless of course (or perhaps not until) we again achieve the perfect obedient child dream. 🙂
ok – now it’s your turn. I would LOVE any and all suggestions on disciplining my 13 month old. PLEASE HELP ME!
PS: As I was finishing this post, Jude had a ‘perfect obedient child’ moment. I said no, he looked at me, smiled and said ok. 🙂 There’s hope yet that this family will graduate to two kids!